Life is tricky and ever changing! What one wants and what one gets are often two different things.. in-fact these are often diametrically on the opposite ends!!
Me bring no exception to this great life have had and do have my share (trust me it is a pretty big one at that) of the mighty upheavals... the kind which want to make you feel like chucking it all away and say out loud, 'That's it! I've had it! No more! I give up!'
But these mighty upheavals, when these move into the past, seem to be so minuscule, that they don't seem to be worth the effort I had spent on tearing my hair out for!!
These appear to be so petty, small and of no major consequence in the larger cycle of life!
On a scale of 1 to 10, a problem that seemed to be 11, looking back on it, it appears to be 1 or may be a 2.
So does our memory plays truant on us, and reduces the complexity of the problem or is it time which makes a fool of us!
I'd say it is a combo of both - human mind tends to dim the memory of the angst, fear and panic of a situation, making it seem more humane under the dust of time, while time makes us more understanding, more experienced and less finicky.
There might have been studies carried out by scientists and psychologists upon the tricks that our mind plays! Studies which would have dissected each and every aspect of a memory, situation - to compartmentalize each feeling, each shiver, each smile into neat arrays making it easier to lay out serious sounding hypothesis, which then would have been studied further, to propound theories.
In-fact I am quite sure, that is how it must have happened.
I don't know much about such studies, since I don't move in such quasi-intellectual circles and know what I know from the lessons I have learnt from life. Life is a great teacher - it has told me repeatedly why I make the mistakes that I make, why do I choose the way I choose, why I loose my cool when I do (trust me I do, and a lot), and much more has it told.
It has also taught me how to extricate myself from these situations, how to react to a situation - fight or flight. What I choose - to fight or flight - is my decision.
So now my decisions are less of flight or flight but more along the lines of being savvy enough to preempt a problem and stay on to solve, instead of getting into a fight mode.
Honestly, life doesn't seem like to be of ups and downs - only of situations which need a calm mind, a detached view of being in the situation, but not be in the situation!
And once you decide to buckle down, then don't run away at the first sign of things erupting around you!
Me bring no exception to this great life have had and do have my share (trust me it is a pretty big one at that) of the mighty upheavals... the kind which want to make you feel like chucking it all away and say out loud, 'That's it! I've had it! No more! I give up!'
But these mighty upheavals, when these move into the past, seem to be so minuscule, that they don't seem to be worth the effort I had spent on tearing my hair out for!!
These appear to be so petty, small and of no major consequence in the larger cycle of life!
On a scale of 1 to 10, a problem that seemed to be 11, looking back on it, it appears to be 1 or may be a 2.
So does our memory plays truant on us, and reduces the complexity of the problem or is it time which makes a fool of us!
I'd say it is a combo of both - human mind tends to dim the memory of the angst, fear and panic of a situation, making it seem more humane under the dust of time, while time makes us more understanding, more experienced and less finicky.
There might have been studies carried out by scientists and psychologists upon the tricks that our mind plays! Studies which would have dissected each and every aspect of a memory, situation - to compartmentalize each feeling, each shiver, each smile into neat arrays making it easier to lay out serious sounding hypothesis, which then would have been studied further, to propound theories.
In-fact I am quite sure, that is how it must have happened.
I don't know much about such studies, since I don't move in such quasi-intellectual circles and know what I know from the lessons I have learnt from life. Life is a great teacher - it has told me repeatedly why I make the mistakes that I make, why do I choose the way I choose, why I loose my cool when I do (trust me I do, and a lot), and much more has it told.
It has also taught me how to extricate myself from these situations, how to react to a situation - fight or flight. What I choose - to fight or flight - is my decision.
So now my decisions are less of flight or flight but more along the lines of being savvy enough to preempt a problem and stay on to solve, instead of getting into a fight mode.
Honestly, life doesn't seem like to be of ups and downs - only of situations which need a calm mind, a detached view of being in the situation, but not be in the situation!
And once you decide to buckle down, then don't run away at the first sign of things erupting around you!
